D is for Deep Resonance and Dissonance. That is our goal as we traverse the pathway of healthy boundary setting, dissonance expression, resonance expression and compassionate communication! The most amazing part of Res Dis is you can have a deeper level intimacy and a deeper experience of the We with others and you just can’t get to the buried treasure if you stay at the surface level. That’s why it’s great to go deep with each other. Deep doesn’t mean brutal honesty. Deep means you’re actually deepening the experience of the We, so that together, you seek out the treasure, building trust as you go. The trust helps for when you encounter more difficult situations, so that you can still keep the We, and so that it can be inspiring, nourishing and replenishing the whole way down. When you lose the We, you can still laugh about it afterwards and the process of losing it actually helps to bring you closer together. Even when you mess up, you get to mess it up together! To do Res Dis, it’s important to be resourced. If you haven’t eaten food recently or hydrated properly with water, or gotten your electrolytes, it’s good to stop and take a nourishment break before proceeding. Good self care practices can go a long way when practicing Res Dis!
